bloggers are people too

by grechen on February 7, 2012 | RSS | FOLLOW ON TWITTER | FACEBOOK |

Personally, I don’t get recognized a lot, but when I do, I’m always so honored that a reader took the time to speak to me that I will always spend time talking to them. I actually find it very humbling, and the most important reminder of why I blog. I mean, I’m not curing cancer or anything, but if I can inspire someone to try something they might not have otherwise, step out of their comfort zone with regard to their wardrobe, or save money, I’ve accomplished a little of what I set out to do. I hope this is the way most bloggers feel about meeting their readers; after all, without our readers, who are we, really?

This is especially true if you make any money at all off your blog – your readers represent your income, and they should always be treated with respect. In my opinion, among other things, this means interacting with readers on your blog via comments, on twitter, or facebook and offline as much as possible. And always be gracious.

All of the bloggers I know are always thrilled to meet and talk to readers offline, and not intimidating at all. So then why are readers, and even other bloggers, often afraid to talk to bloggers they meet in person? I’ve heard this so many times, myself or indirectly: “will {insert “famous” blogger’s name} want to talk to ME?” or “I was so nervous to say something to you!” Which always makes me cringe. Why? Why would anyone be afraid to approach and talk to a blogger?

Sadly I think it’s because so many popular bloggers are treated as celebrities now; they’re getting paid for appearances, they have agents. But ultimately they’re just women doing a job. They do it well, and they have influence, but that certainly doesn’t warrant putting them on pedestals and mobbing around them just to get a picture. They’re the same as you – with a lot of the same insecurities. That “famous” blogger probably spent just as much time in front of the mirror figuring out what to wear as you did; she has piles of kicked-off-in-frustration shoes & clothes all over the closet floor, just like you do. You think she just threw that outfit on, achieved “perfection” the first try, stepped outside to a beautiful day, and perfect lighting to start her photo shoot? Nope.

In some ways, this is why i like to look at fashion blogs that are NOT professionally photographed, and you can see that the person actually WORE what she was wearing. I can relate to that, not to an overly-staged, perfectly posed outfit picture. I think readers appreciate that too.

But I digress ;) Bloggers are people too. They don’t belong on pedestals. They are not celebrities (even the ones who think they are). And you should never be afraid to introduce yourself or talk to a blogger you read and appreciate; they are no “better” than you are.

So if you’re attending one of the blogging conferences coming up soon, keep this in mind. It’s hard enough being in a large group of people, and having to introduce yourself to strangers, don’t make it any worse by falling prey to blogger celebrity worship. I can’t guarantee that every blogger will be kind and generous with her time, but I know most will.

What has been your experience with this? Have you been afraid to introduce yourself to a favorite blogger? What happened when you did it? If you’re a blogger and are approached by a reader, how do you handle it?

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Jaime (Denim Debutante) February 7, 2012 at 1:25 pm

(Could we make it women AND men? Just for equality’s sake.)

I agree with you – any good blogger knows the difference between readers and traffic, and readers deserve more than just a moment of my time. I’ve been stopped on the street, too – it’s kind of a mix between feeling embarrassed (“Who, me?”) and humbled. With no readers, there’s no blog. And even the biggest bloggers know that with no blog, there’s no agent/paid appearances/fashion collabs/etc.

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grechen February 7, 2012 at 1:40 pm

i forget that there are male fashion bloggers most of the time ;) but yes, i suppose this is true for both women & men.

and i’m usually shocked when i get recognized! i never expect it to happen…

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Jaime (Denim Debutante) February 7, 2012 at 2:27 pm

I only ever get recognized on the days when I’m sick, not wearing makeup, dressed like a trainwreck or have food in my teeth. It’s all about keeping it real. :)

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Lena February 7, 2012 at 2:06 pm

I’m new to the blogging world, until recently I didn’t even know all this was going on online. But, in regards to what you’ve said I’m not surprised that there are people that would feel intimidated by someone they deem a popular blogger. For some odd reason people seem to forget that people they see on the big screen, in the media and now the ever growing internet are human. It’s a weird phenomena I’ve personally never understood and neither do the people I’ve known who’ve been treated as such. You’re right, no one should ever be intimidated or too scared to talk to anyone…celeb in the media, popular blogger online or otherwise…they are JUST people lol.

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RevealingBeaute February 9, 2012 at 11:06 am

I have met a few people that read my blog and I’m always elated when they approach me. I love interacting with people and hearing there reasons of why something I shared moved them. Last year at NYFW, I met a lot of bloggers that I follow and was happy to know that ALL of them were nice in person. I recall being nervous when I saw Claire of (@thefashionbomb) and was totally dancing in butterflies but she was really nice. After having moments of “life” at the bloggers night out with so many bloggers, I’m no longer intimidated to approach bloggers. You’re right, they are just like the rest of us and most of them WANT to talk to you too! :-)

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